Well most of the relations we have that are not imposed on us, are created out of emotions and feelings rather than rationale. Now I won't start the debate about the nature of the emotions, whether they are innate or acquired but I do state that we are conditioned to comprehend emotions in binary or extremes. This can be due to the incapacity of the language to associate more words with the feelings, or it is due to the fact that we can not express everything we feel. Sometimes feelings are lost in the translation. The whole idea of discussing this is to highlight the phenomenological aspect of emotions. A person can potentially be everything that is possible. We have to wear veils,guises and layers to hide all the unacceptable possibilities so that we can be accepted in a group,friends or a society.This is due to the reason I feel,that our existence is reflected not in our mind but in the consciousness of others. Then for them we become phenomena, they can only know us from what they already know and not actually what we are. That's why in the world which is growing out of proportion, where almost everyone knows everyone, this makes a person "acceptance hungry". So every new relation we make somehow starts with a bit of killing of ones true self.
