"Some become wise and some become fools for the rest of their life",,,

Within all the living things, humans have this tremendous ability to thrive and sustain their existence. Over the ages, human beings cease to extinct. This overwhelming urge to live is due to the fact that we are the most adaptable species. We can withstand the harshness of the climate, lack of food and none conducive environment. But these all are pertinent to our physical attributes, and we are beyond physical; and contrary to our ability to adapt our selves according to our environment, meta physically we have done the quite opposite. Instead of molding our selves to the meta physical ideas, we mold the ideas in a shape that fits us. The meta physical ideas that I am talking here about are absolute or pseudo absolute ones, more like Platonic forms. For example God, we can only idealize the existence of One, who is creator and sustainer, but this idea doesn't sell so well. We have mold it to such a degree that we have killed the true idea. Now mostly he is a punitive and judgmental being who we seek only when we need material things and not the His true will. We have done the same with the idea of love; the eagerness to learn reality of things, to be wisest of all, we have cast love just to present our needs. For me this is the defense mechanism of ours, hidden in our collective unconsciousness, where the social structure has pushed us to find "acceptance" in others rather than accepting our selves first. It is desperate to tell someone that you need them, so we have fabricated the concept of love, maybe to palliate the pain or make it more acceptable in society. With these changes, "some become wise and some become fools for the rest of their life".

Bonn Voyage : Acceptance

One thing that I have learned is that the basic impetus of human behavior is “acceptance”. We all as conscious beings, thrive for gaining the acceptance of others. In a sense we all live in the consciousness of others, with all our idiosyncrasies, we give ourselves to others for judgment, for their approval and acceptance. This acceptance makes us complete, and fail to gain one, makes us sullen. The emptiness prevails in the failure of gaining other’s acceptance. For this we guise in sweetness, or wear the cloak which suites others. And this morbid fascination grows, molding our behaviors and personalities. But the thing which is most common in the people I met here, and no shame of accepting it myself, the acceptance of opposite gender is most satisfying. I have seen egos succumbing, self proclaimed rules defying, and people kneeling down just for been accepted. Well once I was lingering for that too, but now ain't gonna listen to song of sirens. As I have concluded first one should seek acceptance within.

Bonn Voyage: Endless Division

One of the best thing of studying abroad is that, you experience a whole new cultural dimension; you learn new perspectives and find different point of views. Sadly due to my a-social life style and language barrier, I am not able to learn more about German culture but to my amazement, I had learned a whole new paradigm of my own national identity. I must say I was living in my own world and didn't grasp the gravity of national and cultural drift we had in our own homeland.
Till now one would say its nice to have such a cultural diversity, but in reality its not, as it is very hard or in case of Pakistan, impossible to thread them all in a single unanimous ideology.
What I had experienced is that, the urge of making one’s own culture superior, maligning others, and on the top of all these shortcomings, the parochial complexes have really destroyed the sense of nationalism in us.
I remembered reading in a preface of some book, Arnold Toynbee adduced that Pakistan can not stand a single day if its edifice is build on linguistic,cultural or geographical bases. What Arnold meant can be eloquently described by more superior scholar , Ibn Khaldun’s concept of ‘asabiyah’. According to Khaldun, nation dies when they lost the sense of “group feeling”, when individuals shun off sacrificing for deeds of others. This is what happening to Pakistan , and to all with national euphoria, I am very sad to learn that we are segregated not only in caste, creed and culture but in religion too , which I thought was one single point where all Pakistanis converge. And more sad thing is that I have to come to a whole new country to realize this.